Open your wide eyes, choose the right guy.
This issue has been lingering in my mind for a significant time and hence after much thought, I have decided to voice it out to advice young readers out there. I will speak with the bestest knowledge to my own experience. There is a saying goes, "Experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first, lesson afterwards." That's why to avoid the hard way, it's best to gather people's experiences.
First thing first, I've dated a handful number of guys in my life and after dating them, I got to realize my expectations from a guy and a whole list of merits (plus point) of certain guys.
Let the ball start rolling....
1. Personality
One crucial point that I would like to emphasize. This is the foremost thing you should look for in a guy which will probably give you a longer and stable relationship.
·Hardworking guy. He doesn't have to be from a reputable secondary school, JC, Polytechnic or Uni. What's important is that he has unwavering determination in what he wants to do and willing to work hard to achieve it. I am somewhat attracted to this type of guys.
· Devoted family guy, a man who is family-orientated, always think for their family members before self. In this case, in time to come, he will also be a good father. Haha.
· Well nurtured and good tempered guy. One who never raises his voice unnecessarily when he’s angry. He is also one who is forgiving and knows when to give in to you, even the most ridiculous demands. This kind of guy will definitely give you many good time in the relationship.
·Thoughtful and meticulous guy, one who’s knows your favourite drinks, your favourite singer, who can remember your number at the back of his head and etc. He will also put in enough effort to remember every single word you said..
- Beware of guy who solely knows sweet talking yet does not genuinely mean it. Go for the guy who uses his actions to prove his words and not just credit him based on what he says. I believe some women are gullible, they will be contented listening to what they like to hear. Hence, I want to rally all women to open their eyes wide to the guy he is with.
-Putting down his pride. A guy who can do this for his girl is worth everyone's commendation. This will come in handy during those inevitable quarrels, and the guy who knows is willing to put down his pride and give in, even though he knows he's not at fault, just because he cherishes the relationship.
2. Competency
This is a touchy issue that I will like to raise. I’m not trying to say that you have to find guys who are loaded or what so ever. I’m merely stating some facts on what girls should consider before pounding on to a guy.
· Financial status. I know that money shouldn't be the factor why you choose the guy. But just take a look at the reality now, without money, you hardly have a comfortable life and you guys will probably face several hardships in the relationship.
*Quoting a few examples: Due to the lack of money, there will be problems with enjoying good food and lots of other entertainment. It is indubitably not fun to survive on a 'credit crisis'.
If he’s not someone who’s effing rich, pray that at the least he’s frugal in his own expenses but generous enough to spend the money together. Owning a car is a big bonus point. But beware that he has the capability to own it as we all know that car is a more of liability than an asset.
3. Priorities
What does he prioritize in his life? Family, Friends, Girlfriend, who comes first and are you able to accept his choice?
One who always party with his friends every weekends, and as a girlfriend are you willing to join him and his friends? His circle of friends, are they all bad ass or just nice guys too?
One who are overly family orientated and put his family over anything else. Are you able to sacrifice and compromise to his arrangements?
One who put you as his only priority, clingy boyfriend who doesn't give you your personal space and time? When you’re too busy to make time for him 24 hours as you have your own work to do, how are you gonna handle it?
So, I guess I have made my points clear enough and you girls can note down which favourable points that you can use as a guide to finding your prince charming, good luck girls!
XOXO
